Decoding Attachment Styles
Why you keep picking the same fights. Why you feel so needy or so smothered. Let's talk about why your relationships play out the way they do, and what you can actually do about it.
I’m your host, Annalisa Bahadur. I have a psychology degree, I’m a coach, and most importantly, I’ve been in the trenches. I used to have major anxious attachment. I know what it's like to feel that constant anxiety, to need reassurance, to feel like the relationship is always on the brink of collapse.
But I did the work to move toward secure. And I’m now almost five years into a happy, stable relationship with a recovering avoidant. I’m not talking theory from a textbook. I’m talking about what actually worked for me and my clients.
This podcast is about attachment theory, stripped down to the basics. No fluff, no fancy language. Just straight talk about how your early wiring affects your adult relationships.
In each episode, we break down the four attachment styles - Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant.
We'll look at how they show up in your dating life, your friendships, and even at work. You'll hear real stories and get practical steps you can use right now.
We focus on two main tools: empathy and boundaries.
- Empathy to understand why you and the people you love act the way they do.
- Boundaries to protect your own energy and stop cycles of drama and hurt.
This isn't about blaming your parents or your exes. It's about giving you a roadmap to better relationships. You'll learn how to identify your patterns, communicate what you really need, and build connections that feel solid, not stressful.
If you're tired of the same old problems and you're ready for real change, you're in the right place.
Bonus- every Thursday you'll have a chance to listen in on real people as they share their struggles as I coach them through their challenges. Each individual has agreed to have these session recorded using a pseudonym, and aired for your benefit.
Decoding Attachment Styles
What Are The Signs That An Avoidant Ex Is Forever Gone?
This is a recording of the regular Wednesday live Instagram. On today’s episode we answered these questions 👇…and more…
What are the signs that an avoidant ex is forever gone and the relationship has ended
Man has been living a double life. He’s been in two relationships while messaging other women. What should I do?
Do avoidant people honestly love and care about you, or is it just a game?
If I have awareness that I am an anxious attached person and my partner is fearful avoidant, how can I make this work?
How to not be a manipulator?
Would telling a dismissive avoidant I now see my partner in our disconnection and break up with them help mend things?
Is there a way to reignite the spark after you’ve lost interest or should we give up?
How to work on anxiety and overthinking?
What does it mean when an avoidant attached keeps replying to you but says they have no idea what to say?
Why do avoidant give mixed signals and vague responses when asked for honesty?
Why can’t an avoidant tell their ex to leave them alone and go away?